gay counseling?!

Gay people have issues, this is a fact, but then everyone else has.

The most important part is how to deal with those issues or compartmentalize them. Which one is important? Which one to deal first?

Do I have to come out first? Do I need to find a guy before taking a step out of the closet? Do I have to let my family know before anyone else?

Is it that important to tell my boss and colleagues? Am I bi? When is the proper time to date? What do I need to know about the guy I’m interested in?

Are all the hot guys straight or taken? Is that stud boyfriend material? What’s the perfect outfit? How am I supposed to ask a guy out?

Should I start with random dates and then look for a longterm relationship? Do I want kids with this guy?

and the story goes on and on, if you look carefully many of those questions come to anyone’s mind gay or straight so it’s not a gay issue. Even when you get passed all those things, you start your family, have the perfect guy, have a kid or two, find a job and all those things many people dream of there is always a “but” or an “if only”

He’s a good guy but he smokes. If only he wanted sex as much as I did.

He has a decent job but he doesn’t like sharing the bills. He’s not that bad but he’s be more handsome with more defined abs.

If only I dated that doctor guy. If only he had a yacht.

and it’s the same old story there, whining wife, bored husband, low income….. the end? well break up! Even divorce in some states.

So here I am, listening to my may-be-future-in-law complaining about his parents not accepting his boyfriend or claiming they are too young to marry or settle for a long term relationship or whatever.

Parents are parents, to be honest I can understand them to some extent, they love their kid and worked hard to embrace their gay son, that’s the farthest they can go for now. Marriage? Commitment? That’s a lot.

Many parents freak out hearing their teenage girl knocked up by some random guy from school. It definitely is not the future they plan for their offspring so it’s not that hard to imagine how they would feel when some random guy sweeps their only child off his feet. Not only making him move hundreds of miles away but ask for their blessing. This is not the big plan, not even close to it. So as a parent I can see why they are so against it.

My brother-in-law is a good kid, honest, fun and cute. That’s where all the good things end, he’s not responsible and definitely a dreamer completely relying on his brothers.

This won’t work. I know I’ve said it a lot and they proved me wrong by staying together over two years, still being someone’s boy friend is one thing, being a life time partner is another story.

I’m so not gonna help them because

1. I agree with P’s parents

2. K2 is totally irresponsible and you can never count on him

3. A 23 year-old-man acting like a moody teenager is not the kind of person you can rely on

4. P can do a lot better. K2 is my brother-in-law and I love him dearly BUT he’s such an arrogant brat.

5. I’d rather have A back with us, having limited sex in the bedroom than have P here whining all day and having no sex at all! (I’m only being a wuss!)

So no more queers, can I talk to a straight couple for a while. All these gay people make me sick! (Homophobic hormones kicking in!)

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